This post explores one of the key strategies to developing a secure attachment to self — repairing after pain, hurt, or disconnection.

When relationships hit rough patches, it’s easy to feel like you're stuck in a cycle of miscommunication, frustration, and emotional distance. Many couples experience this—and that’s where Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) can make a world of difference.

What we have learned over three years of practicing this exercise, and sharing a new-and-improved version of the check-in we use each week.

Exploring how “always” and “never” statements come into play during conflict, and what’s underneath these patterns. Since these absolute statements can be harmful, we find other strategies to interact.

When feedback becomes a fight, or a fight becomes feedback — chances are no positive outcome will prevail. On the flipside, when feedback becomes a routine facet of communication, our relationships have the opportunity to flourish.